In honor of recently celebrating our one year anniversary, here are three gems that I have learned in my first year of marriage (that I am still trying to get down).
1. Communicate well! What you say, and how you say it is everything (including body language)! It’s not always easy to remain level-headed or even to be understanding 100% of the time. But take a second to watch what and how you say things to your loved one, or the vibes you are putting off in general, especially in tense situations. This will save countless hours of your life that you might spend arguing/upset about it. Practice being gentle and kind even when you aren’t seeing eye to eye!
2. Forgive! Letting go of anger and past discrepancies and truly forgiving is huge! And hard, but huge (and not bringing them back up in the heat of a moment). Realize that you are both human. Be willing to work things out and say sorry, and never walk away from the other person when you are trying to talk it through and it’s not going your way. Remember that you two are on the same team!!
3. Have patience! Again, you are both human. You will both be dumb dumbs sometimes. Let annoyances and frustrations with each other pass without reacting negatively or throwing up defenses. Allowing room for each other to be human and to be met with patience (gentleness and kindness also) instead of frustration will allow room for growth.
Honestly a lot of learning goes on the first year, but I hope these are helpful to anyone engaged or newlywed out there! Marriage is great! But it’s always nice to have some tools/advice for getting over the hurdles that are bound to happen.