Hey Blog Fam!! 🙂 I come to you today from Minnesota! Today Jess and I are actually road tripping up North and she’s got a million fun things planned that I’ll post all about later but I also wanted to get in a blog post today. Writing is so therapeutic for me…I just love it and you guys – I’m so appreciative of those of you who follow my blog so THANK YOU. And please feel free to comment or reach out to me WHENEVER. Really. Anyway, I wrote this post on the plane ride over to Minnesota, spur of the moment and I don’t want to read it back over because I’ll probably think it’s silly but it’s my post for the day so enjoy! And have a great Monday!!!
Okay, I’m going to share something with you that I firmly believe. It’s something I’ve been slowly learning over the course of my 27 years of life – in general, and in almost two years of marriage.
((Let me preface this by saying how much I love my husband and how much he spoils me. He really takes the best care of me – we take care of each other, it’s what we do!!))
Okay, I’m sure you’ve probably heard this before but it’s as true now as it was then: You’re happiness depends on you. Not your husband. Not anyone else. It’s up to you! You have to pursue it and some days even fight for it.
So what is it that makes you happy? What is it that makes you tick and gets you amped up about being alive? And why does it make you happy? And why aren’t you pursuing that or doing it if that’s what makes you happy? Trust me – everyone is better off when you are pursuing the things that you love (you know, vibes are definitely real and can be felt by the people you are around, so how are people going to feel around you?).
Me, I’ve always been happiest when I feel good about myself, when I’m working on growing inside and out. Eating healthy, working out, reading more, you get the idea. So I continually make it a point to pursue those things. I can’t tell you how much not being happy and not feeling like myself has previously clouded my ability to enjoy life and other people, enjoy a moment or see potential opportunity.
When it comes to marriage and preconceived notions I try to weed those out instead of fostering expectations that can’t and won’t always be met based on the mere fact that Sam’s a human (this comes with lots of practice)! Sure he’s a wonderful husband, but he’s also a husband. And with that comes a LOAD of responsibilities as the head of a household and family. (And of course part of my happiness is wrapped up in his happiness – so I feel it with him when he’s happy, stressed, angry, etc. – but part of cultivating your personal happiness is that you are able to lift up those in your life when they need a little dose of encouragement. That’s hard to do when your loved one may feel down but you’re also on this downward spiral of self loathing or bitter resentment of unmet expectations.) Allow room in your life for those around you to be human and for yourself to be human but always strive for a mind of gratitude and positivity and pursue your happiness and your passions.
Hey if flowers and chocolate make me happy (which they do and I feel like flowers help set a cheerful environment), I’m gonna buy myself some dang flowers and chocolate. Which I do sometimes! And Sam does as well. But he has so many other ways of showing me he loves and cares for me too. But you get what I mean right? You gotta make it happen. I mean, that’s one of the biggest reasons that I started this blog! And that’s also why I did this 30 Day Challenge (oh, how I LOVE the grind – which btw I used to hate that word. Quick little side note: I didn’t understand the grind until I bought into the idea of it all and embraced “the hustle” – sometimes you gotta change your mind to see a different perspective. Seriously Id see “back to the grind” and do the real life eye roll emoji, but now I GET IT).
What I’m trying to say is that your happiness can most definitely be found with other people, but it should be dependent upon you: your faith, your thoughts, your actions, your pursuits. So what kind of decisions are you making? Are they decisions that you can feel proud about? Are they moving you towards your goals and dreams? Are the growing you into the person you hope to be twenty years from now? I hope so.
Pursue what makes you happy, pursue what makes you’re soul burst with excitement, pursue what you’re passionate about, because when you’re mind and your heart are right and you’re happy, you’re free to embrace life and others with arms wide open.
Okay that’s all and I know that was kind of a random ramble! But love you guys!
Happy Monday, go kick butt and seize the day!!