That’s how long Sam and I have been married! Well, 730.49 days to be more precise – even though it’s actually more than that now. I think 730 days sounds much less than two years, don’t you think?
1,826.21 days is approximately how long we’ve been together since we started dating back in 2011!
And if we make it to our 80’s we’ll have been together 19, 357.85 days! God willing.
I also JUST realized last night that Sam turns the big 3-0 in September, in like TWO months. Which makes me feel like we are well on our way to being 50 for some reason. WHICH let me just say, for those of you reading that are in your 50’s or older, it’s not old! You know what I mean though. One second you’re 20 then you’re 50 haha.
How crazy is that? It’s been so crazy. Such a whirlwind.
And how is it that two years can feel like an eternity and then pass by in the blink of an eye all the same?
Life is funny that way… Marriage is funny that way too.
It’s full of date nights, the special moments, the trips together, the peaceful nights and the times when things feel all together and in the right place. Those times are sweet and savory and I want them to be slow. And then there are those times when we are arguing or stressed out or running around and can’t seem to find a good balance. Those times stretch us and strain us and stick around longer than I’d like. But the time still passes and here we find ourselves.
2 years down reflecting on ways that we can continue to grow in marriage. Because I’m pretty sure it’s an ever-present and on-going process. Figuring it out is half of the fun though and honestly I think it brings us closer together than if things were all sunshine and margaritas on the beach.
Living with another person 24/7 is hard. But it’s a lot harder when you don’t have time and attention enough for each other in your busy pursuits of life. There are so many things that could come between a husband and wife that we have to work to be cheerleaders for one another in a way that is louder than the constant noise of self-doubt, to-do lists and deadlines, bills and appointments and obligations and all the pulls of technology. If we merely add a negative voice to all of those things, we can only expect distance enough for the enemy to work.
Anyway, I joke that Sam and I have never had a “honeymoon phase” in our relationship because it has constantly been work. It’s been so good and I can’t imagine my life without this guy, but I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t a full time job being married! Haha I mean, we have so many stories in our 1,826.21 days of being together that seriously crack me up at how much we have worked through and how much we have grown and how many ways we still need to grow.
I honestly think God brought me exactly the kind of person he knew I would need in life to help me work through all of the baggage I brought into marriage. Sam is by no means a saint, but I think as far as humans go, he’s a pretty great one.
Anyway I’ve pin-pointed a couple of things that I specifically want to work on in our third year of marriage – i.e. – COMMUNICATION and CONTENTMENT.
Probably not a surprise to most of you but communication has never been my strong suit – like, ever. You want to talk about feelings? BYE. You want to talk about what I’m doing? BYE. You want to pour your heart out and then it’s my turn? BYE. PLEASE DON’T MAKE ME OPEN MY HEART AND SHARE. It scares me. I hate talking. HAHA. But seriously, I can shut people out like winter is coming. And learning how to walk in that uncomfortable vulnerability of communication is something I want to work on and need to grow in for sure.
Contentment is something that I’m trying to find as well. Because life happens and things are constantly changing! But I want to choose joy and contentment no matter what my circumstances. And I think a big part of that comes from practicing gratitude. To be completely honest, my life has looked nothing like what I thought it would be at this point. And that’s okay, but I think I’ve held onto the picture of how I thought my life would be for so long that it’s impaired my ability to enjoy where we are. Even if it can be kind of crazy, we have a great life! And I don’t want the years to pass by without me being present or being grateful or being content and enjoying the chapter of life we are currently in.
Of course I have hopes and dreams and goals but I also want to have a heart that is grateful and finds contentment in the things that truly matter and embraces all the chapters and phases of life and sees the good and the joy to be had.
So happy two years to Sam and I! AND here’s to year 3. Hopefully it will be filled with communication, contentment, gratitude, growth and joy.
We’ve come a long way but I’d do it all over again.
Thanks for being patient and choosing me over and over again even when I drive you crazy babe!