There are lots of beautiful people in the world, and YOU are one of them. Ladies (and gentlemen), you are perfect just the way God made you.
Sadie Robertson of Duck Dynasty recently posted a YouTube video where she addressed this thing people have been saying a lot on social media lately when they see someone who has something they don’t: “body goals“, “outfit goals“, “workout goals“, etc. essentially comparing themselves to someone who they can never be and wanting what they have! We all do it, myself included but it’s such a detrimental mindset to create and foster. It does nothing but make us feel less than and want to find ways that we are better at something than others. It gets in the way of our ability to love others AND our ability to love ourselves.
If you want to watch Sadie’s YouTube video you can click this link because her message is beautifully said: just be you and live original!
Embrace who YOU are and be thankful for what YOU have. You will never find comfort and peace in seeking the things that the world and our society says are popular and beautiful. It’s standards are skewed and full of lies.
You don’t need hair extensions to be beautiful.
You don’t need fake eyelashes to be beautiful (plus I got some for my wedding and I can honestly say they were a pain!).
You don’t need fake boobs or plastic surgery to be beautiful ( I’ve thought about it many times I promise you, and if you’ve had an operation, no judgement, seriously!!).
You don’t need to weigh 100lbs to be beautiful (though if you naturally weigh that much, I’m not doggin’ on you and good for you!!)
You don’t need to starve yourself or torture yourself to get that “ideal” body image.
You don’t need a damn thigh gap to be beautiful.
You don’t need to have the perfect outfits and the perfect hair to be beautiful.
You are beautiful because you were made by God.
And you are perfect just the way God made you. You are wonderfully and intricately made. You are the work of God and You are valued by God.
And it’s not always easy to accept this truth, trust me, I know…I’ve struggled with it all. But that doesn’t change the fact that it’s true.
I was around 20lbs heavier when Sam and I started dating and I really struggled with my body image and had struggled with it since I started gaining weight after high-school, to the point of being seriously unhealthy mentally and emotionally; I didn’t think well of myself at all. And my weight was constantly fluctuating. It was all negative self talk going on in my mind and I was battling emotional compulsive binge eating and I was killing myself working out to try to “fix” my mistake. It was a ruthless and vicious cycle.
But it was also a time in my life where I was growing in my faith and learning just how much I am loved and treasured and valued by God and it took awhile for me to really let that sink in. I still need that reminder even today and I still struggle, but I know where to turn. While I may be in a healthier place, it’s because I was given the faith to believe what God says about me is true.
What’s also wonderful to me is that during that time in my life when I thought so little of myself and my appearance, God brought Sam into my life, someone who thought I was beautiful, belly rolls and all. But more than physical attraction, God brought someone into my life who saw my heart. And that’s the crux of it all. It’s what’s inside that matters most! And when you get your heart right, and you let God’s truth’s sink in and live there, you shine from the inside out. Sam saw my heart and my faith even in the midst of the struggle going on inside.
And listen guys, I’m not saying that I’m better off now that I’m 20 lbs lighter. Everyone has unique and individual bodies that are shaped differently and function differently and have their own healthy spot. For me it was a struggle because of my mindset. I had this idea in my mind of how I thought I needed to look and I didn’t, and I beat myself down because of it. I thought I was less valuable and less worthy of love because I didn’t meet this “goal” and it wasn’t true. What was more unhealthy than me being a little overweight was my mindset. And God helped me set it straight (and I have slowly been listening and getting it)!
Does that mean I don’t enjoy getting glammed up and dressed up and putting on make-up, etc.? NO! I mean I am a girl after all,and I love primping. And it doesn’t mean that I’m not going to take care of myself and try to be the healthiest me I can be. I’m just not going to try to be the best someone else, because I’m me! (Duh, I know, but you know what I mean?) and I’m not going to beat myself up over not being anything but me. Or because I eat pizza and sweets, etc. More acceptance and less comparison. More self-love and less negative self talk. More appreciating what I do have and less wanting. More loving others and less competition. More building each other up! More enjoyment and less guilt! Philippians 2:2-8
Complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others as more important than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests but also to the interests of others…
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows.